Dating a very shy girl
You have to put yourself into situations where you have a chance to come in contact with women. If you don’t have many friends or a social circle, then you’ll have to get some or be proactive in other ways. And that’s when the attraction part of our brain was designed by evolution.Pro tip: check out Meet and see if there’s any events that seem interesting to you. Cavemen who mated with younger women were more likely to have healthy and surviving kids, so now guys are wired to be attracted to younger women in general.
This male desire for youth, health and fertility is also why women have the instinct of adornment.
People meet each other in many different places, in many different ways. Now I live near a downtown university, which means there’s a seemingly endless stream of cute girls walking down the street whenever I step outside. Start thinking about where you can meet the girl who is right for you. So clearly, just being in a situation where you’re NEAR a lot of girls is not going to get you a girlfriend. Here’s how reality actually works: “Being yourself” is not going to get you a girlfriend. Depressed, insecure about how I looked, little sense of fashion, and unable to even look a cute woman in the eyes for more than 1 second.
In fact, one of my reasons for writing this article is to bust a lot of the MYTHS that some dating advice or so-called “pick up” coaches are spreading. I even had an apartment a couple blocks away from one of the main nightlife areas in the city. If you live in a more suburban area outside the city, then go to a nearby shopping mall, bookstore or a busy coffee shop. The problem with meeting girls at nightclubs or even going to one of those”single people events” is that there’s a The first step to finding a girlfriend is to put yourself into situations where you can meet many different girls that have a high chance of being compatible with you. Well-meaning people may tell shy guys that you just need to “be yourself” and eventually some girl will fall in love with you. I had to change myself and my behavior before my dating results changed.
So let me now bust one of the big myths about WHERE to meet women… This doesn’t mean you both need to be the #1 and #2 Harry Potter fans. I had to become a more assertive, outgoing and interesting person.
When I was first trying to overcome my shyness around girls… It’s more about finding people who have compatible values, lifestyle, and personal energy. I had to overcome many of my fears and build new conversation skills. If we’re going to be honest, it’s a woman’s appearance first and foremost.