Dating grieving widow
I lacked the energy to enjoy trying new experiences.
Having only the best intentions, George’s parents took me on a three week cruise of the Baltics four months after he died.I didn’t know what I wanted when I started online dating.Being a nice girl, I sought a stable guy to settle down with.I hadn’t yet forgiven myself that he died on my watch. Until I resolved my own issues, I couldn’t be present for someone new because I was still living in the past. Yup, time to hit Target and pick up a new spouse now that the old one’s gone! I hear from so many widowed folk who get plenty of love and companionship from friends and family. Yet the societal benchmark for recovery seems to be seeing someone new.I got through the guilt with grief counseling and journaling, but I wasn’t ready to date until I’d put my ghosts to rest. I drank that koolaid as a new widow, but finally realized if I don’t want to date, it didn’t make me any less “recovered.” It also didn’t make me any more or less attractive.