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Honest and practical, it challenges cultural assumptions about relationships and provides solid, biblical alternatives to society's norm. Chapter One Smart Love Beyond What Feels Good, Back to What Is Good It was finally here Anna's wedding day, the day she had dreamed about and planned for months. "But then I was struck with this sickening thought: How many men could line up next to me on my wedding day? That's Just the Way It Is Growing up, I considered dating an essential part of the complete teenage experience. This started in junior high when my peers and I treated dating as a game, a chance to play at love and experiment with relationships.
Have you tasted pain in dating, drifted through one romance or, possibly, several of them? I Kissed Dating Goodbye shows what it means to entrust your love life to God. I hope you're better at keeping promises now than you were when I knew you." "My, don't you look nice in that tuxedo. " There are relationships that I can only look back on with regret. I laugh them off as part of the game of love that everyone plays.
"I gave the impression that there was one formula that you could follow, and if you followed that, you'd be happily married, God would bless you, and you'd have a great sex life and marriage." He added, "Obviously, the real world doesn't work that way." However, the 42-year-old pastor and author said what he regrets most is the fact that he transferred the fear inside of him to his writing. "Fear of messing up, fear of getting your heart broken, fear of hurting somebody else, fear of sex." Harris, who went on to serve as senior pastor of Covenant Life Church for several years, said he finally understood the problems in his book after he stopped being the pastor of a large church and went to graduate school.
"I stopped having to be constantly right about everything," he said.
In his book, Harris also urges Christian singles to commit to "purposeful singleness," as romantic relationships should exist only as a means to preparing for marriage.But as the minister began to lead Anna and David through their vows, the unthinkable happened. The only worry was being dumpedyou never wanted to get dumped, you wanted to do the dumping.A girl stood up in the middle of the congregation, walked quietly to the altar, and took David's other hand. One girl I knew had the fastest breakup routine ever: When she was ready to end a relationship, she'd say, "Skippy-bop, you just got dropped." But soon, just saying you were going out with someone wasn't enough."I just became a student who was listening." Today, Harris said he's working with those who have been hurt by his book and is even producing a documentary that shares his journey and delves into how religious communities talk about sex and relationships."It's been such an emotional roller coaster for me," he said.